This is a comprehensive list of links (appendix or table of contents) to all the blogs I've written about my musical journey including teachers, training and experience.
My Rockin' Organ Lessons Part 1
This is a comprehensive list of links (appendix or table of contents) to all the blogs I've written about my musical journey including teachers, training and experience.
My Rockin' Organ Lessons Part 1
If you've followed this series of blog posts then you'll know I played clarinet in elementary school and started organ lessons at the age of 12 which is late for most keyboard students. At age 17 I began teaching keyboard and working to get my grades with the Royal Conservatory in piano. I taught for several years in my home town before moving here in 2001.
At that point, I was feeling burnt out so I took a job in retail. I worked my way into management but never really got the respect I thought I deserved for my work. So, in 2005 I approached a teaching colleague and she hired me on the spot saying "what took you so long to come see me." I took over the Monday to Friday teaching slot at the Academy of Music and that was that.
I realized this was my true calling. The first day I returned to teaching gave me feelings like Scrooge waking on Christmas morning.
I've taught so many people over the years ranging in ages from 3 to 83. People tell me I'm a good teacher and while I feel confident it's hard to believe them when you keep striving to be better and better versions of yourself. Students come and go but it always amazes me when someone approaches me and says I was their piano teacher. Students grow up and change and teachers remain mostly the same. A few years ago I had this exact thing happen. A young lady at an outdoor concert kept staring at me. Finally she confessed that I was her piano teacher. I said "forgive me, but I don't recognize you." She told me who she was and yes, of course I had taught her! I've had this happen in stores and other places around the city too. I’ve also had the experience where a student said “you taught my dad” and yes I did.
I am rather oblivious to the year gap. The most popular age for a student to begin is age 7. I see them once a week and while I know they're growing up, suddenly they can drive and in a flash they have boyfriends and are starting university. That is, if I've had the pleasure of teaching them that long. Many many students often quit lessons in high school but there are those special ones who keep going.
How blessed am I to know these young people for so long! I've had a couple of these special people become teachers as well. I feel a lot of pride for their accomplishments but its also bitter sweet. My encounters with them make me a better teacher and have made me strive to be better year after year, exam after exam and festival after festival. I'm happy for them but always a bit sad too for the end of a relationship which honestly is a big part of my life but a miniscule part of theirs.
Some days are good and some are bad. Some students come to lessons emotional after school or elated over something else. I hear a lot of things from students and probably things that might make their parents shudder. I tell them stories, I ask about their day, ask what's new and always wish them well on their way out the door. They're free to talk and show honesty with me while getting down to the business of learning to play and appreciate music.
My main goal for my students is to make me obsolete. They should be able to learn, play and perform without me.
It's the end of an era when a special student moves on. I’m sure it’s far harder on me than it is on them. Meanwhile, I continue to do what I do. I make everyone feel special. I share the love of music everyday. The rewards are far greater than I ever could have imagined.
So when your kid says they want to take music lessons. Please, please do everything in your power to support them. Buy the books, buy the instrument, and show up at every event they're in.
And, take pictures all along the way because you just never know where it's going to lead.
I had one lesson with a lady who picked apart every single piece I had learned to the extent that I was supposed to work on my hand position and gestures. Um no. No time for that whether it was necessary or not. I found it pretty ironic that she had incredibly long fingernails that prevented her from actually having great hand position and yet here she was commenting on mine! I have no idea what her name was and I left her house with a determination to find someone else.
I got a list of Registered Music Teachers in the area. One name stood out because her husband had been the band teacher (remember I quit band after grade 7) at my high school. Mrs. Gibson. She had a warmth about her, was small in stature and had short grey hair. I'd go into the basement of their bungalow where there were some couches to wait and two baby grand pianos amongst shelves and filing cabinets of books.
Mrs. Gibson was a good teacher but she had a very cutting way about her. My perspective is that she likely had a lot of students who excelled and while I always thought I was average I do realize now I wasn't. She was the one who made me feel that way. She told me things like how I needed to practice 4 hours a day. She said things like "I thought you knew what you were doing." when I'd got 91% on my theory exam and not 100%. She made me file my nails as short as they could be because they tapped on the keys and encouraged me to remove all rings and watches so 'I could be free'.
I often describe her as "the one who hated me" even though I chose not to title this blog in those words. It's possible she did like me or at least tolerate me. I know she didn't like that I was already teaching. She didn't like that I played on keyboards. She didn't like a multitude of things about me. I never got to hear about the things I did well. The drills on scales I won't ever forget nor will I ever teach them that way. None of these things I took forward with me in my own teaching.
I received a 75% on my Royal Conservatory Grade 8 exam. I thanked Mrs. Gibson and never looked back.
I thought for a long time that 75% was a poor mark. Many many years later and after putting my own students through multitudes of exams I have gained an understanding that it was actually a pretty good mark and that even the most exceptional of piano students only got marks in the 80's. You see they mark in a way that means you have to prove your worth and show why you deserve the mark. I spent a long time thinking less of myself.
But who really cares because I got the certificate and I've spent 30+ years teaching music.
A few years ago, I saw Mrs Gibson at a Royal Conservatory seminar. I was shocked. She still looked the same. I didn't talk to her and she didn't recognize me.